Ongoing reflections on how behavior is understood
—Reflections on perspective shifts, nervous system disability, inherited systems, and Compassion for Capacity
These pieces are personal reflections—
shaped by lived experience, ongoing learning, and moments of noticing.
They have supported me in finding connection and community,
and in making sense of what didn’t always feel aligned. They are shared here in the hope that they may offer something similar to others.
Confessions of a former BCBA and PDA Parent
— A collection of reflections on PDA parenting, autistic burnout, nervous system disability and the perspective shifts that unfolded when my lived experience and child's suffering challenged everything I thought I knew about human behavior.
Many parents of PDA autistic humans experience waves of intense emotions when lived reality no longer aligns with what they have been taught about behavior.
The stinging yet fleeting grief no one talks about.
Looking back through a different lens.
Heavy feelings that emerge when new understanding shines light on the past.
What becomes possible when we intentionally frame others as doing their best.
A reflection on humanity, support, and making room for multiple truths.
The disconnect between lived experience and inherited systems.
What happens when capacity, context, and humanity are missing from conversations about behavior.
